Understanding and Helping Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Rape

This course is written and presented by Rob Kelly FIAPH

2011 dates to be confirmed

Rob Kelly is a hypnotherapist and trainer who has helped over two thousand victims of sexual abuse, over a twenty year period. Rob has developed this course specifically for therapists and those professionals working with abuse victims and perpetrators. His own professional training has been provided by nationally recognised experts including The Lucy Faithful Foundation, and Ray Wyre and Associates.

Rob also provides a range of consultancy and training services for companies and small groups. These consultancy and training services can be tailored towards the particular needs of professionals and companies working with victims of sexual abuse.

Please click here if you would like more information on Rob's consultancy and training services or would like Rob to deliver a similar course at your company.

Rob additionally provides very successful therapeutic interventions for individuals.

Please click here if you are looking for help after being sexually assaulted or abused.

 

Course costs

The cost of attending this course is £295 (£195 IAPH/ICHP members/Students) – which includes refreshments and lunch on both days.

This course is a 2 day residential course. B&B is available at the Hotel for £35, per person, per night.

I can heartily recommend this two-day training course: Rob Kelly is a rare breed .... not only is he a highly-skilled and knowledgeable clinician, he is also a superb presenter who possess the ability to impart his experience to others in a truly inspiring
fashion
Dr Mark Pummel MBBS MRCGP FRCPsych

 

About the course

To work successfully with the victims of sexual abuse, you must first 
understand why and how abusers manage to abuse, and why they (often) get away with it undetected for many years.

This knowledge will help enable you to fully comprehend the very 
powerful effects of GROOMING, DISTORTED THINKING, and 
NORMALISATION – behaviours that often ‘trap’ the victims of abuse, 
preventing them from being able to resolving their issues, and ‘unlocking’
their own destructive behaviour traits.

This course will equip you with a good working knowledge and understanding of the issues surrounding Sexual Abuse; from the victim’s, perpetrator's and therapeutic perspectives.

"The division that exists between those who work with offenders and those who work with victims is an artificial one. It is as essential for those who work with offenders to understand victim behaviour and the impact of offending upon victims, as it is for those who work with victim/survivors to understand how the offender operates to control his victim, and how he abuses within the community."
Ray Wyre (1998)

The course will be based entirely around REAL case histories: some of which will be presented live on the day. Every delegate will receive comprehensive notes, an attendance certificate, and proof of 14 hours CPD. The course will be presented in a dynamic, colourful, and where possible, light-hearted manner, in order to facilitate a good group dynamic, and ease of learning.

Please beware that the course will go into depth about many emotionally-charged subjects, and delegates who are not used to discussing such subjects openly, may find the training quite challenging. It is for this reason that we also suggest delegates take up the special B&B price at the hotel (only £35 per night) in order to unwind and ‘de-brief’ on the Saturday evening.

This is a Module of the IAPH Advanced Diploma Programme - Successfully complete 8 modules, and you will be awarded the Advanced Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Hypnoanalysis

Some of the topics covered in the course include:

Definitions of abuse

• Physical
• Emotional
• Neglect
• Sexual

Types of abuse

The following different types of sexual abuse will be discussed on the course:

• Individual abuse on child/ren within biological family
• Individual abuse on child/ren belonging to step family
• Inter-generational incest
• Extended individual extra-familiar
• Extended inter-generational incest
• Extended co-operate inter-generational incest (Chaotic boundaries)
• Individual abusing child/ren through employment access
• Linear abuse
• Sex rings
• Religious cult abuse
• Ritual abuse

Different types of abuser

Profiling the sexual offender. Why men (mostly) rape and abuse women and children? How do the types of abuser differ? How does an abuser choose, groom and abuse his victims?

The following types of offender will be discussed in detail:

• Anger rapist
• Sexual rapist
• Sociopathic rapist
• Anger excitation rapist
• Anger sadistic
• Over controlled sadistic
• Serial Rapist
• Fixated paedophile
• Inadequate paedophile
• Inadequate fixated paedophile
• Hebephile
• Natural father anger motivated incest

Female offenders

Why do women abuse? What types of female abuser are there?

• Polyincestuous abuser
• Single parent abuser
• Psychotic abuser
• Adolescent abuser
• Non-custodial abuser

The 'Offender Cycle'

• Distorted thinking, normalisation
• Pro-Offending Behaviour/ Thinking
• Internal Inhibitors
• What triggers an assault?
• Fantasy rehearsal
• Targeting
• Grooming
• Offending
• Reinforcement
• Guilt and fear
• Pushing away guilt and fear

What is Grooming?

• Why it is now a criminal offence?
• What purpose does it serve?
• Different experiences of grooming
• The 'favourite uncle' syndrome
• Collusion Institutionalised grooming (church, social work, teaching, police)
• How grooming will impact upon any later attempts to resolve conflict surrounding the abuse (i.e. therapy)

Understanding victims of sexual abuse

• How it feels to be abused?
• What defence mechanisms and symptoms can be produced by abuse?
• Signs & Symptoms of abuse
• Fear/Denial/Guilt/Shame Dissociation & Resistance
• Understanding 'Victimology'
• Repression & Survival .........Is there a 'Victim Cycle'?
• Why is it that 99% of abusers are victims, and yet very few victims become abusers?

Resilience after abuse

"Researchers have explained resilience in terms of hardiness, and proposed that hardy individuals have a strong commitment to self, are willing to take action and to deal with problems, have a positive attitude toward their environment, hold a strong sense of purpose, and develop a strong internal locus of control which enables them to see life's obstacles as challenges that can be overcome."
Hebert (1996)

"Resilient individuals are those who, despite severe hardships and the presence of at-risk factors, develop characteristics and coping skills that enable them to succeed in life."
McMillan and Reed (1994)

• What makes some abused children resilient?
• Individual attributes
• Family protective factors
• School and community protective factors
• Relationships

Helping an abused client

• How to help an abuse 'victim' to take control of their life and live happily
• Which interventions work best and quickest?

Dear Rob
I cannot believe that something so horrible, and difficult to
comprehend, was resolved so easily with you - in just one session
You made is so easy for me to to talk about it, and I now feel better than ever. Thank you so much for giving me back my life. After the rape I never thought I would ever be able to feel ‘normal’ again.
Thank you so much
Clare Bunting, Cambridge

A sociological perspective

• Historical Perspectives
• Cultural Perspectives

Can sex offenders and paedophiles be successfully treated?

• Research in the USA shows that 80% of sex offenders who received no treatment while in prison, re-offend upon their release

How to protect your family from sexual predators

 

Some comments from previous course attendees:

Rob, this has to be one of the best courses that I have ever attended (and I have attended a lot of courses!). . . .the content was packed full of information and this difficult subject was presented in a down to earth, easy to understand, light hearted manner that made it more comfortable and easier to take in, absorb and learn. . . I was amazed and impressed at how well you treated everyone, lunch on both days, drink at the bar, mini cabs, night on the town.  I think that you should feel proud of yourself for the way you operate and the way you treat your members and the way that you treated us.  We will certainly attend other courses with you, if that's ok and thankyou again Rob for a first class course.
David Birch ICHP, Hypnotherapist

Once again another superb workshop run by Rob!  His style is entertaining and hugely informative. I have worked with quite a number of victims of abuse and this workshop has given me a much greater insight into the types of abuser and how they groom both the victim and those around him/her. All of this will help me enormously when working with my clients to help them to make sense of how they were groomed to help them resolve their conflict and take control of their lives. It will also be very much easier to spot any grooming should it ever happen around my friends or family. A great workshop – one you really must attend!
Penny Albertella, Hypnotherapist

A great course seminar which is invaluable for a therapist wishing to deepen his or her understanding of the behavioural and nurturing issues which need to be addressed when dealing with the effects of the abuse of children.
Terry Shadwell, Hypnotherapist

The sex abuse course was informative, engaging, thorough and better yet applicable to my day to day work in my own practice. Rob’s style of presentation is class participatory, approachable and really, really easy going. It was enlightening to get the perpetrator’s perspective / pathology as it can be difficult to comprehend how abuse is even possible, by what can be otherwise normal and lovely people. There was a wonderful, open and friendly atmosphere among the participants. We were all encouraged to go out on the first evening to unwind – which shows extra care and understanding to make sure everybody is OK with what is being presented.

I never knew I could sit through two days of sex abuse material and have so much fun. It is both a testament to Rob’s open and humorous presentation skills and also to pure hypnoanalysis itself. Having just completed the therapy myself I was not ‘triggered’/upset in any way, and given that every area of abuse was covered, this was a wonderful test of the effectiveness of the therapy.  
Ailish McGrath, Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist

Great course, a real must attend for all therapists to gain a greater understanding of this subject, and considering the content, presented in a light hearted manner. What really stands out is the associations and its members who are all so friendly and supportive and make everyone feel so safe and comfortable.  If I had to sum up the weekend in one word I would say "comfortable". 
Nicky Delacy

A potentially very heavy and serious subject was once again delivered in a light and manageable way. This enabled us to absorb the information, knowledge and experience available to us over two days.
This course introduces us into the world of the abuser. More importantly, it gives us a vital understanding of the victims experiences, without which it would be very difficult for us to help them.
Kieran Fitzpatrick, Hypnotherapist

I would like to thank Rob Kelly for providing the "Sexual Abuse and Sexual Offending" course. While this topic is very serious, Rob's knowledgeable presentation was delivered succinctly, compassionately and with a sense of humour that in no way detracted nor demeaned the topic.
I now understand sexual abuse in a much more comprehensive way as the focus was not solely on the victims, but on the pscychology of abusers. This one day course is vital to the therapist's better understanding of their clients and I highly recommend attending  future courses.
Ron van der Holt, Hypnotherapist

Since attending this course I would doubt anyone to be fully equipped as a therapist without knowledge gleaned from this. To fully understand the mind set of an abuse victim, it is essential to also understand the mindset of the abuser and the impact this will have on therapy. I feel better prepared now to help the client who has survived either  physical, emotional or sexual  abuse as this course covers every aspect.
Caroline Hamblin, Hypnotherapist

This course is an essential professional development course for all therapists and councillors involved in dealing with the results of abuse. It gives a greater understanding of the distorted thinking and patterns of behaviour of abusers and the effects on the abused. The material is powerful and challenging but ultimately leads to a shift in perspective that can only be of benefit to all who attend and I highly recommend it.
Keith Jones, Hypnotherapist

I attended Robs excellent course ,dealing with sexual abuse and it,s perpetrators. I not only found it interesting and informative in the extreme. But a cathartic experience, and an invaluable tool for achieving self understanding.As the grooming methods of abusers were explained, it became very easy to apply to ones personal experience some of the methods described. Because of this course I feel totally confident in my dealings with the unfortunate victims of the many kinds of sexual and personal abuse.
Danny Nuttall, Hypnotherapist

Just a quick note to say how much I enjoyed the course, it’s always good to meet the gang and it goes without saying that (as usual) I  got a great deal out of the experience, as there is something new to learn each and every time. The sense of community among the members is truly valuable.  
Brian Brown, Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist

I think this course is an absolute "MUST" for all therapists, regardless of the type of therapy they practice.  Less that one week on and I have already put the insights gained on the course to good use in the therapy room. Having been in practice for a couple of years now and done lots of reading around the subject, I thought I had a reasonable grasp of how Grooming and Sexual Abuse may affect therapy, but it soon became clear my previous understanding was somewhat limited to say the least. Although the subject matter of this course is emotionally challenging, I came away with a really positive feeling that I would be able to assist my clients much more effectively when they are resolving and facing up to abusive experiences of the past. Not only will I be booking myself on more of your courses Rob, I will most definetly be attending this course again.  
Richard Brent, Hypnotist and Hypnotherapist